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Heather Robinson of Time Out New York writes: "At this straightforward dating service, owner Fay Goldman first conducts an Goldman maintains that she is choosy about whom she accepts as clients. Despite my offer to interview over the phone and send her a picture of myself, Goldman would not pair me with anyone until I met her at her office, a tasteful midtown suite. Her questions were reasonable and direct. ("Do you come from a close family?", "Do you prefer tall or short men?"). I soon realized Goldman does her homework. The two men I met through her service fit my profile. The first, a corporate executive, had curly, dark hair and striking blue eyes. On our first date, we went downtown to Kiev, where we shared borsht and discussed our immigrant ancestors. For our second meeting, we ate dessert at the St. Regis. Unfortunately, he had this annoying habit of talking about beautiful women he knew. Call me insecure, but it was a turnoff. The other guy, a cute, athletic-looking stockbroker, also took me to some nice places, including a highbrow charity function at an art gallery. Too bad he had a brusque, serious quality. Neither man was my soul mate, but it was pleasant to meet guys who actually seemed interested in finding a relationship. And the membership cost pretty much ensured that I didn't meet paupers -- always a plus." In Touch Magazine - On Television Reality Show, Joe Millionaire contestants ...professional matchmaker Fay Goldman of Meaningful Connections in New York warns everyone involved needs to tackle the issue of the show's deceitful nature. "She may need to reexamine her feelings," she says. "That honesty and trust is a crucial core of any relationship." According to matchmaker Fay Goldman, "Women with careers and a good education tend not to want to support a man and often tell me it's important that he makes at least as much as she does. It becomes an issue if a guy can't share her lifestyle." In Touch Magazine - On Television Reality Show, Bachelorette contestants - "He's in the seduction stage of the relationship now," says professional matchmaker Fay Goldman. "For some people, the infatuation never wears off, and they can make the romance last forever." According to Fay Goldman, "He's on his best behavior for the cameras and he's acting a certain way, but in reality -- away from the fantasy of the show -- he may have certain traits and behavior patterns that do not match hers. It could be totally unrealistic" Forbes Magazine, May 30, 2007, "Playing Cupid to the Rich and Famous"
As quoted in: STILL DOING IT (The Intimate Lives of Women Over 60) by Deirdre Fishel, and Diana Holtzberg Published by the Penguin Group Fay Goldman says that the reason most older women don’t go to matchmakers is because many won’t accept women in their sixties and seventies, and many women just assume all don’t. Luckily for Stella her single-mindedness led her to someone who could help her. And Stella made quite an impression on Fay. “With Stella, I remember her energy level and her aliveness, and she was sorta excited about life and really just refreshing, very much alive, very interested in things. You could feel her energy, you know, just very very up, positive energy.” Fay quickly thought of a few matches for her. When Stella met her lover he was only the second man she went out with, but sparks did fly. As matchmaker Fay Goldman points out, one of the perks of getting older is being able to be with someone who is different, and that, in and of itself, fosters a greater sense of autonomy and self. Fay Goldman, the matchmaker at Meaningful Connections, says that while she doesn’t have a plentiful pool, like for someone in their thirties, she’s been surprised at “what I do come up with for women in their sixties.” She says that the good news is that more men are opening up to being with women their own age or older, especially men who have been married or had some therapy—the ones she calls more “evolved”-but these guys are still the exception, not the norm. On the other hand, Stella, who met her lover in her late sixties through matchmaker Fay Goldman and started to have some of the wildest sex in her life, did. As Stella describes it, “I have a good, strong libido, and I’m always interested in sex. Creators News Service, January 15, 2009, "Dating can be fun the second time around" |
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hour-long interview that includes questions about a prospective client's education, career, lifestyle, and qualities desired in a partner. Goldman then personally sifts through her client roster (consisting of hundreds of people) to try to make a match. Clients are guaranteed their first match within two weeks of joining.
"When it comes to making moneymaking matches, just getting your name out there isn't enough. "A few bad matches and you are finished," says New York matchmaker Fay Goldman, who runs Meaningful Connections. "Word travels fast, and every other matchmaker is looking for a chance to knock you down. You are only as good as your reputation ."